Do Your Thing and Say Goodbye to Jealousy

wavingHow much time and energy do you spend trying to please your partner? How much have you lost trying to be as smart/sexy/interesting/successful/funny/charming as you believe your partner wants you to be?

These are painful questions because, all too often, you put in a whole lot of effort (and maybe a whole lot of expense too) to be the one who can keep your beloved satisfied so that he or she will stay in your life.

The cost is that you lose yourself.

You think you have to be something more than what you are– or else your partner will leave you for someone else or simply just leave. And because of that belief, you force yourself to change. You dress differently than you ever would. You start to talk or act in ways that really aren’t true to you.

You stop being the person you are at your core who is a unique, amazing AND valuable human being.

Perhaps worst of all….

The changes you’ve made to try to keep your partner’s interest, attention and even fidelity aren’t working. You still get jealous. You still worry that he or she will cheat and leave you. You still feel a painful distance growing between the two of you.

And, usually, the changes you’ve made in an attempt to please the one you love aren’t actually what your partner wants. You’re operating from guesses, theories and interpretations and much of that isn’t accurate.

Isn’t it time to return to who you are? If you’ve lost touch with exactly who that is, now is your chance to rediscover you and start appreciating and valuing your own self.

We urge you to shift your focus from “What will keep him interested?” to “What do I want to be and do?” Find out what gets you excited and more fully engaged with life and let that self-confidence, sense of direction and passion guide you. Give yourself permission to do your thing…whatever that means to you…and do it with pride!

We guarantee, THAT’S what will sustain a trusting, close and happy relationship.

Watch this to jump start your return to YOU…

 

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